All posts tagged: Self Love

5 tips for dealing with mean people by Nicole Eva

5 Tips for Handling Mean People

It’s a well known fact. People can be mean. Like really mean. I’m not talking about the woman who rolled her eyes at you in line at the store or the thumbs down on your YouTube video…I’m talking about the intentionally-trying-to-get-under-your-skin-and-make-you-feel-less-than kind of mean. When I was a kid, I remember thinking that when I got older people would be nice. You know, because maturity. I had never seen adults be mean to one another. Yes, I had seen adults fight and be angry at one another, but I had never seen the intentional hurting of another person in my adult surroundings as a child. In my mind anger was never connected to meanness…a concept I believe adults today still find hard to grasp. You can be angry with someone without lashing out and being vindictive. Go figure. I have learned in my adulthood that there are some people who simply aren’t nice and who as a result will not treat you nicely. These people in their intentional spitefulness can get into your head and …

Feel Good February

Hey friends, welcome to February! We’re a full month through with 2020 already, crazy huh? This month I’m going to be doing a series focused on YOU. I’ll be sharing self care tips, things to encourage mental health & wellness and more. I’m excited for it and I hope you’ll come along! I wanted to do something different than the usual things that come with the month of February. I figure there will be enough “date ideas” or “valentines day crafts” or even “best dating apps” this month and personally I hated seeing all of that when I was single and I STILL hate seeing all of that now. Annnnd no, there’s nothing wrong with Valentine’s Day…I’m by no means anti it, I just don’t feel like posting about it : ) I’d instead much rather go deeper into what I’m most passionate about and the purpose of this blog as a whole which is to encourage women to see themselves as the strong individuals they are and to help us all to be the …

12 am thoughts – 2020 Wrap up

It’s about 20 minutes after midnight and I’m tired, very tired actually but not ready to sleep just yet. Do you ever just feel that heavy pressure, not quite anxiety level but just a steady pressure to fix your entire life in one day? I’m right there right now. Maybe it’s being spurred on by the upcoming end of the year and also end of the decade. Maybe it’s also being spurred on simultaneously by the fast approaching end of my 27th year. Just a moment ago (meaning literally as I began writing this) I started to dive deep into that trap of weighing all of my perceived lack of accomplishments of the past 365 days. I started to think about all of the ways I’ve failed myself, all of the ways I thought I’d be further than I am right now. This is why I opened my computer. I was going to whine about it in a pages doc and then delete it and hopefully go to bed feeling depressed enough to sleep (because …

Validation

Validation: The recognition or affirmation that a person or their feelings or opinions are valid or worthwhile. As people we love to be validated. We love to know that someone out there thinks that we matter. We love validation in our work places. We want the boss to know that they need us, we want our co workers to know that we’re adding benefit to the workplace. We love validation in our schools. We want our teachers to think we’re intelligent. We want to be told “Great job!” on our papers or projects, or get excellent grades so that we avoid disapproval from those around us. We crave validation in our friend groups. We want our friends to value us. We hurt when a friend doesn’t talk to us for a few days or when our snap streak is broken. We want validation from people who aren’t even our friends. How do we know this? Because most of us (not all of us) spend far too much time trying to find out why certain people …