All posts tagged: new years resolutions

Instead of New Years Resolutions, let’s do this.

If you’ve been here a while you already know that I’m not super into New Years resolutions. We “set” them because everyone else does and then we don’t stick to them and then we end up significantly more discouraged than we needed to. Last year I talked about something I was doing instead of a resolutions list, it was a stop doing list and you can check that post out here. I was overall pretty successful. No one’s perfect and I’m definitely not the exception but I can say that I’m pretty proud of what I was able to accomplish this past year. This new year, I’m in the same mindset, we’re still not making resolutions over here (again, not against them per say, I’m just not into it) but I wanted to give you some ideas of alternatives that you can use instead of creating a New Years resolutions list. Create a Vision Board As a visually motivated person and someone who loves to create things with my hands, vision boards are may jam. …

5 Questions to ask Yourself in 2020

In my grandmother’s house in Barbados there’s a growth chart on the back of the door in the bedroom my brother and I stayed in as kids. In my childhood home there was also a growth chart tracking my height each year. As kids we’re kind of obsessed with checking our height. Have you ever watched kids stand next to one another and check to see who’s taller? Why are we like this? Because we aspire to see growth. Growth is how we know we’re on the right track. Growth is how we determine that we’re not standing still. It’s early, but I think its time for a 2020 growth check. Now, I’m fully aware that it’s been less than a month of 2020 and that all of our wildest dreams and hoped for accomplishments are nowhere near complete. But, there are ways to measure yourself now in the beginning, when it’s hardest, to make sure you’re on the right path. Here are 5 questions to ask your self to determine your growth in 2020. …

A little Encouragement and New Things

I’m stressed fam. It’s week three of January and I’m at that point already where I’m asking myself “have I bitten off more than I can chew?” “Did I over estimate my potential?” “Can I really do this?” About a minute ago, those thoughts were stressing me out and I was going to write about them, but as I’m writing this right now, I’m realizing that maybe those thoughts are the exact markers I needed to know that I’m on the right track. Think about it, if I wasn’t pushing myself, if I was succumbing to every discouragement or distraction and taking it easy for the sake of taking it easy, these thoughts wouldn’t even be in my head…The only reason I am able to ask myself those questions is because of all of the crazy planning and building that I am currently doing. This quick little post is just a reminder and encouragement to all of you doing big things this year. The last three weeks may not have gone the way you’d hoped. …

Why Im Choosing MORE Social Media for 2020

A lot of people have made it a “resolution” this year to spend significantly less time on social media. This year I plan on spending MORE time on social media…here’s why. A few blog posts ago I mentioned how I didn’t set up any New Years resolutions because I’m kind of over the stress and over hype-ness of the new year new me stuff (missed it? check that post out here). I also stated how I already have goals and things that I’m working on right now and that those goals are well on their way (additional reasoning why I don’t need a plethora of new goals this year). One of those goals is this right here: My blog. I’ve been writing consistently on this page for about a year and a half. I’ve made my writing public for about 6 months and I’ve been writing in general (in journals, on the internet, on other medias) for 22 years. This year is the year for this space to take off. I’m ready for it. In …

2020 Theme: Live Life Authentically

Welcome to 2020 my friends. We’ve made it. You made it. I’m so proud of you, of us. If you’ve been with me for a while then you already know about my yearly themes. But just in case you don’t…For the past few years I have come up with a theme for the year. This theme usually comes to me within the last few weeks of the previous year. Last years theme was choose joy. What that meant to me was that regardless of my circumstances I was going to choose to be joyful. I was going to choose to understand that yes life comes with bad, but that inside of the bad there will always be some good and “choose joy” encouraged me to look for that good and choose to be joyful regardless. This was no easy task. Although I was hopeful, 2019 tested me in ways that honestly brought me far too close to my breaking point. Aside from all of that, 2019 taught me about me in a way that I …

My 2020 Stop Doing List

I want to take a different approach to the way I engage with the upcoming new year. In previous years I did the usual thing; I set new goals, added new items to my “do these things to be successful” list and set an ideal weight to strive towards. Although it’s been semi successful, I’m kind of over it. I’m over the updated list of new things to track and maybe accomplish that simply leave me feeling overwhelmed and disappointed if it doesn’t work out. My new approach? A list of things I want to stop doing in 2020. As far as my life goes, I’m doing pretty okay. My overall goals are well on their way to being accomplished and to be honest, I don’t need any new ones right now. What I do need to start doing, is making time and saving energy for the things in my life that matter and bring me joy. In order to do that I need to stop doing things that simply fill up time and take …

My 2018

2018 is coming to a close. It’s crazy right, I can still vividly remember celebrating the entry into 2018 with all of my friends and just like that, it’s about to be over. There are still two months left but I figured this would be a good time for me to look over the year and evaluate somethings. 2018 was a year. It wasn’t particularly good, or bad for me. I grew, I learned through mistakes, I was challenged and I struggled at times but all in all it’s almost the end of the year and I’m here and loving my life still. So, let’s do it, let’s review the year of 2018. I’m going to break this down into categories (because this is how my brain works). One category will feature accomplishments; things that I am proud of, positive changes and positive growth and the other category will feature things that need improvement; things I still need to work on, things I could have done better or things I simply wish were better. Accomplishments: …

Cheers to 2018!

  “Happy New Year!!!” We made it! 2017 is over. For some of you, 2017 was a year of stress, drama, sadness, struggle and turmoil. For others 2017 was a slow year, nothing significantly good or bad happened. You just kind of trudged along. For another bunch of you 2017 was a year of growth, prosperity, friendships & love. For me, 2017 was a very interesting combination of all of these things. I found family in friendships and learned what it really means to love and be loved. I grew in ways that I never thought would be possible. I did things that scared me, chased after my dreams and found contentment in the moments of quiet. I  lost friends I couldn’t imagine my life without…and survived. I lost a friend to suicide and embraced the grieving that came with instead of closing myself off to those emotions. I  became unshakable in my relationship with Christ and learned the true meaning of perseverance. I  said yes to adventures I didn’t plan for….many times. I did …

Goaaaaaaaaal(s)

We all know how important setting goals is to personal growth and development. If you’ve ever set a goal, you know that setting a goal is the easy part. It’s the sticking to it that gives us a little bit of a challenge. Now, I don’t struggle with sticking to goals because I lack motivation or anything like that. Sometimes sticking to a timetable of what to do, when to begin doing and when to have it done can be a bit overwhelming. Confession: I am a perfectionist…well…a recovering one. So those things (having a specific time to achieve something) gives me a little bit of anxiety. But. There are ways to set goals that make setting those goals and sticking to them a tad bit easier and even a little exciting. I’ve started applying these to my life and I’ve been able to set goals, stick to them and actually enjoy the process and now I want to share them with you in 3 steps. Make them practical- Nothing ruins the momentum of a …