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Practically in Love 1:2

Hey Friends! Welcome to my first ever series! In brief, this series is about learning how to practically love the people around us. If you want more details about this series, check out my previous introductory post here. This week we’re going to focus on practically loving others by showing respect. I wasn’t going to start with respect simply because it seems so basic. We learned about respect way back in the beginning in elementary school and as children learning how to properly interact with adults. So I figured it could be a little too simplistic and foundational as a start…but then I thought about that word I just used; foundational. Foundations are things we build on. You wouldn’t build a house without first making sure it had a strong foundation, why? Because it wouldn’t stand. We can’t talk about love without talking about respect. It’s just that simple. Over time we have decided that we get to determine whether another person is worthy of respect. We make them earn it from us. We create …

Validation

Validation: The recognition or affirmation that a person or their feelings or opinions are valid or worthwhile. As people we love to be validated. We love to know that someone out there thinks that we matter. We love validation in our work places. We want the boss to know that they need us, we want our co workers to know that we’re adding benefit to the workplace. We love validation in our schools. We want our teachers to think we’re intelligent. We want to be told “Great job!” on our papers or projects, or get excellent grades so that we avoid disapproval from those around us. We crave validation in our friend groups. We want our friends to value us. We hurt when a friend doesn’t talk to us for a few days or when our snap streak is broken. We want validation from people who aren’t even our friends. How do we know this? Because most of us (not all of us) spend far too much time trying to find out why certain people …

You Asked: How to Spend Time with God Throughout Your Day

Hey Friends! Todays topic is one that was actually sent to me by one of you. I got a few requests as a result of a post I put out on twitter, but I really wanted to talk about this one first because its something that I am personally challenged with at this particular time in my life. Todays topic: How to spend time with God throughout your day. Now, those of you who identify yourselves as christians most likely know that you should be making time for God daily, if you didn’t, now you do. Most of us are pretty good at that. We wake up in the morning and open up our bible app. We wait for that welcome message at the top of our screen and for our daily streak number to register that yes, I have opened my bible app for the 147th time in a row (or maybe you’re like me and your on day 15…again…). Some of you may even end your day with some God time, praying and …

Thoughts on Singleness

Alright ladies. I am about to dive into a topic that I have heard discussed (and been a part of discussions about) for the majority of my young adult and teen life. Let’s talk about being single. First and foremost I am going to say something profound. Something that you may find controversial but bear with me, are you ready? Open your notes app….okay here it is: Your singleness is not a curse. Did you read that? Did you understand it? Read it once more to make sure. Okay. A little dramatic? Yea, maybe, but I do feel that this is something that needs to be repeated again and again and again and yes….again. The amount of time that I spend convincing women of all ages that singleness is actually not a documented disease and that people can actually survive and maybe…wait for it…thrive in their singleness astounds me. It astounds me, but I also understand it. Because I understand it is why I want to write about it. I’ve wanted to write about this …

Friday Findings

Hi friends! Happy Friday! I hope this week has been a good one! This week for me has been challenging, but the good kind. I’ve been challenged to do things that made me uncomfortable, things that I felt incredibly unprepared for and to shine a light on a side of me that I prefer to keep hidden for the sake of a friend. Specifics? They’re coming. So, what exactly is this “Friday Findings”? It’s a section of my blog where I will  update you weekly on things I want to talk about from the past week. Category: lessons learned. Lets get started! This week God has been teaching me something. What? I’m not quite sure yet. But twice this week I’ve been in situations where I’ve had to get quite uncomfortable and talk about things I normally wouldn’t for the sake of encouragement and transparency. It was pretty cool. I don’t normally jump for opportunities like that because I usually walk away from them feeling pretty exposed and vulnerable. This time was no different. In …

Journaling

Writing for me is an outlet. It always has been. There are journals with my name on them in the archives of my home from the time I was 6 years old. There are writings about going to the museum, the zoo, the library. Stories about events that happened between my brother and I and funny things between my parents. I wrote about what I wanted to be when I grew up and analyzed my place in the world with scrawly handwriting and illustrations. For me, using a pen and paper as a means to process the happenings of a day or sort through my emotions is simply second nature. As mentioned briefly in my previous post Lets Chat: Teenagers, I’ve kept journals throughout my adolescent years to keep me sane…or highlight my insanity…one or the other. There are notebooks filled to the brim with angst. From frustrations to song lyrics to my hopes and dreams to my crush of the week, I wrote about it all. I was completely unaware at the time that …

“And We’ll Never Be Royyaalls…”

“And we’ll never be royals It don’t run in our blood That kind of lux just ain’t for us We crave a different kind of buzz Let me be your ruler, you can call me Queen B And baby I’ll rule (I’ll rule I’ll rule I’ll rule) Let me live that fantasy” From the lovely, wise, groundbreaking poet known to mankind as Lorde. For those of you familiar with the song, you’re welcome for getting it stuck in your heads, my pleasure. It wasn’t totally random though, as my theme for today just so happens to be, yep, you’ve guessed it; the Royal Wedding. I think I’m allowed to be a “typical” girl every-once in a while and fawn over mushy things, and this is going to be one of the mushy things I choose. Sorry, not sorry. Fun fact about Nicole (that’s me!): I am actually a hopeless romantic. That statement would blow a lot of people’s minds within my social circles. Mainly because I do kind of come across as this hardened, ultra …

Help! I’ve started a blog!

There it is, right in front of you. The blank screen.   You’ve had this idea floating around in your head for months. You’ve tossed it around to your close friends and some select family members. They’ve told you it would be a great idea. You’re creative, inspiring, full of knowledge they’ve said and well, you believe them. The world would totally benefit from the thoughts you mull over in the late hours of the night or while zoning out in class. So you said “Yea! Lets do it!” and you created an account. You thought long and hard about a URL and spent way too long finding a theme that shows the world, or at least the blogosphere at first glance what kind of sophisticated blogger you are. If you’re the super prepared type you may even have a notebook of blog ideas to pick from and you start tapping away. The computer keys are singing their praises as you finally set your inner word artist free. You type for what feels like hours, …

Blessed

Hey Guys! So sorry it has been so long between posts. It has been such a crazy crazy end of the month (April) and unfortunately, the crazy hasn’t stopped yet. My whole family got the flu, then when I was supposed to be traveling to Atlanta I ended up home with the stomach flu. After that we moved (YAY) and have been settling in to our new home. Moving homes is way more complex as an adult than as a child haha. Still exciting, just a bit more complicated. And to top it all off this past weekend I got into my first ever car accident and it was a biggie. My car is a total wreck and my brain and body are still trying to put the pieces together as I recover physically (I’m a little beat up, but nothing too crazy) but mainly emotionally. This post isn’t about my accident tho, this post is about this woman I had the pleasure of celebrating a few days ago. The woman in the middle of my …

Let’s Chat: Weakness

Weakness. What a simple but dirty sounding word. Heads of companies ask you to list yours during job interviews, therapists want you to talk about them, and lets face it, even though you may try not to, there’s a slight chance you see them glaring back at you when you look at yourself in the mirror after a rough day. This week is far from over, but boy has it been a doozy. Do people say that anymore? I don’t know. But yea. It has been one of those weeks where my weaknesses, my vulnerabilities have come out and placed themselves smack dab in the middle of my day-to-day and beat me up a little. The result: I’m unfocused. Unmotivated. Tempted to let my day to day responsibilities slide to the bottom of my priority list because honestly, I just want to dwell in the way that I am feeling and let that be all that there is right now. I’m reacting. Everything feels like chaos and I can’t really figure out how to clean …