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Self-Care or Self-ish?

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Is self care selfish? This is a question that has plagued me whenever people have asked me what my passions revolve around. I’ve said things like wellness, and health and people as a response, which is true. But I’m also passionate about self care, but aware of how others seem to interpret it. It’s taken me a while to figure out my thoughts on this, and maybe you have also asked yourself this question and come to your own answers, maybe ours are the same, and maybe they’re very different. I guess we shall see. My answer: Self care is not selfish. It’s actually the complete opposite, but we’ll get to that in a second. What is selfish though, is burnout. Working yourself all the way until you no longer have life in your bones for anything or anyone around you is not only selfish, but I’ll take it a step further and call prideful. To understand why burnout is selfish, you have to understand how we get there. The Miriam Websters definition of burnout …

Vacation Guilt

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Good morning friends! In a few hours Kevin will be swinging by my house and we will be heading off to New Hampshire to meet up with a couple of friends. It’s about 8:45 right now and I’m not scheduled to leave until about 11:00… I’m up a bit earlier than planned because I’m a little anxious. At some point this anxiousness will turn into excitement, but for now I’m anxious and I’m writing myself through finding out why. Previously, I would feel this way, ignore it/suppress it only to have it resurface later on. Not today. Because health. Before I fell asleep last night I looked up the term “vacation guilt”. I have a tendency to feel guilty, like I’m doing something wrong, whenever I take time out of work. Because of this I never use my vacation time. I wanted to know if I was the only one and surprise, I’m not. I read a few blog posts and articles about it and discovered that vacation guilt has a lot less to do …

So…People had a lot to say about my mental health post.

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To say I was anything but surprised on the amount of feedback I got from my latest post would be lying. People loved it. It’s crazy because I was so hesitant to talk about this topic for many reasons, but I’m glad I did. There’s something about the human condition that uses the struggles that we all face to connect us. It gives us a community of people who relate to the fact that we all have something we’re going through. We’re all warriors earning our badges throughout this life and when we realize that we can shift the focus from ourselves and instead support each other. I think that’s pretty amazing. I made a video addressing the feedback I received. It’s on YouTube and you can find it by clicking here. I have a bunch of other videos on YouTube as well, but this is definitely one I’m proud of simply due to the amount of effort it took for a quick “thanks for loving on me” post. I’m also pretty proud of this …

Don’t Run. Fight. Be Brave.

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Transparency post. I’m never as brave as I look. I have to remind myself constantly that it’s okay to be fearful, but that fearfulness is not an exscuse for stagnancy. My tendency when things catch me off guard, stress my beyond comprehension or scare me is to hide or run away from the challenge. By hide, I don’t mean physically (at first), but I more so hide emotionally. I shut myself off to feelings and can become very clinical in my approach in an attempt to patch it up and remove it from my sight. I become a “1) what’s the problem 2) what’s the solution” type of person. People who aren’t familiar with me and how I handle stress (which is 98% of the population) will often celebrate this side of me because it’s effective. I get praised for having a small to non existent stress response or being able to maintain my cool under insane amounts of pressure, but inside I fully well know that what I’ve done on the inside to get …

Fall Skin Care Tips & Tricks

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Autumn. The time of the year when leaves turn red and gold and the air gets just a little (or a lot bit) colder. You’ve officially turned in your flip-flops and sun screen and have traded them for chap-stick, suede ankle boots and long socks. As much as I totally adore this time of the year, my skin does not. This for me is the season of dry rough skin. This time last year I had just come back from a trip with my family to Barbados. My family is originally from there and we were celebrating my grandmother’s 80th birthday. The sun was hot, the breeze was warm and beachside was where I ate, napped and read. And my skin? My skin was thriving. I returned home and my warm sunny days were instantly replaced with grey days and wind gusts that made a 60 degree day feel like 40. I adjusted (eventually), but my skin did not. I looked dehydrated, my skin was ashy and flakey and my T-zone…a mess. I decided I …

My Holiday Challenge

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Hey Friends! It’s November (well its been November for a few days now) and I’m back! I haven’t been gone for that long, but longer than I would have liked. Life did that thing it does sometimes where it gets a little crazy, stress levels increase and irritation gets high. Quite honestly, it interrupted my desire to be the slightest bit creative. So, I took a breath, focused in one direction and now I am back and all yours. November is one of my favorite months. Mainly because it’s smack dab in the middle of Autumn. I LOVE autumn. First of all, it’s one of my favorite names for a girl. Second of all, the leaves change, the air gets a little colder. I can wear jeans without dying and can finally retire my shorts and not have to worry about my thighs sweating and sticking together for another 6 months. I love layering sweaters over dresses and scarves and high boots and ankle boots and leather jackets and all of the fall fashion trends. …

Living Life Unstuck

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I think there’s a point in every young-ish adults life where they realize something critical. We look at ourselves in the mirror and realize that where we are right now, is not where we thought we’d be 5 years ago. For some of us this is an encouraging realization. Maybe you didn’t expect to be making as much money or to be married with children or owning your own business. If that’s you then congratulations! Keep moving forward in that direction, we need movers and shakers like you in this world. For others of us tho, this realization comes with some sadness and perhaps some anxiety. Maybe you’d hoped that by now you’d be living on your own, maybe you thought you’d be rid of credit card and school debt, maybe you thought you’d be working your dream job or maybe you thought that you’d at least be in a relationship if not married. I’m writing right now to encourage those of you who fall into the second category, myself included. I was reflecting on …

Why I Blog

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This is my first consistent year of blogging. The first time I’ve had an actual calendar of posts, footage in stock and mapped out when and what I would post about. Because this is my first year of taking blogging seriously, I still have a lot to learn. I plan on learning all of those things in the upcoming year, but this year my focus was simply on having the discipline to be consistent. I think I’ve done a pretty decent job at that. So, what drove me to start a blog anyway? A lot of things actually! Let’s take a look at them below: I love writing – That’s definitely a BIG part of the reason I started blogging. I really enjoy writing and I always have. The desire to share – I’ve always had the desire to share information and things that I’ve learned in life with others. I want to share life discoveries, tips and tricks, strategies and share experiences with people all over the world. Community – The writer community is …

My 2018

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2018 is coming to a close. It’s crazy right, I can still vividly remember celebrating the entry into 2018 with all of my friends and just like that, it’s about to be over. There are still two months left but I figured this would be a good time for me to look over the year and evaluate somethings. 2018 was a year. It wasn’t particularly good, or bad for me. I grew, I learned through mistakes, I was challenged and I struggled at times but all in all it’s almost the end of the year and I’m here and loving my life still. So, let’s do it, let’s review the year of 2018. I’m going to break this down into categories (because this is how my brain works). One category will feature accomplishments; things that I am proud of, positive changes and positive growth and the other category will feature things that need improvement; things I still need to work on, things I could have done better or things I simply wish were better. Accomplishments: …