All posts filed under: Personal Development

Rebuilding Your Self-Confidence

I don’t know if this is apparent, but I am a highly sensitive person. I do a pretty good job at pretending I’m not simply because the world can be a bit harsh, but, it’s who I am.  Like most people who are highly sensitive, I’ve grown up always assuming this to be a bad thing. I grew up around labels such as “too sensitive”  or “too quiet” which to me, indicated that this trait was a negative one.  As I grew into adulthood I went through phases of acceptance of myself and my sensitive nature; it made me exceptionally good at the personal aspects of my work in every job I’ve ever held and it made me a pretty good friend. But along with the phases of acceptance, I also went through phases of rejection of this part of me; it made me a target for ridicule in spaces where this trait was viewed as a weakness.  Recently, I had an encounter that sent me spiraling. My “me” was again under scrutiny and I …

Instead of New Years Resolutions, let’s do this.

If you’ve been here a while you already know that I’m not super into New Years resolutions. We “set” them because everyone else does and then we don’t stick to them and then we end up significantly more discouraged than we needed to. Last year I talked about something I was doing instead of a resolutions list, it was a stop doing list and you can check that post out here. I was overall pretty successful. No one’s perfect and I’m definitely not the exception but I can say that I’m pretty proud of what I was able to accomplish this past year. This new year, I’m in the same mindset, we’re still not making resolutions over here (again, not against them per say, I’m just not into it) but I wanted to give you some ideas of alternatives that you can use instead of creating a New Years resolutions list. Create a Vision Board As a visually motivated person and someone who loves to create things with my hands, vision boards are may jam. …

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A letter to myself on the first day of the last month of the year:  As we know, this year has been something else. We’ve experienced, a lot. As I was reflecting on this year and my feelings about it, the following came about. It came about because I have frustrations, I have heartaches, I have doubts and they all come from the things experienced in this past year. So, I wrote this.   You may be tempted to dismiss the small things.  You may be tempted to dismiss the hard things.  You may be tempted to dismiss the set backs. Don’t. Don’t sit in your discouragement.  Don’t stop believing in your dreams.  It may seem like your time is racing past you, It may seem like you just can’t catch up. It may seem like your unrealized goals of this year were failures. Because you didn’t accomplish what you set out to, But they weren’t.  This year you learned, a lot. This year you continued to dream.  This year you learned to pay attention …

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The Tea On: FOMO

FOMO or the fear of missing out, has been defined as (according to google) “Social anxiety that comes from believing that others may be having fun without you.” I agree with that definition, but I also believe FOMO can be about a little more than simply thinking that others are out enjoying their lives without you present. Over the last few months I think many of us have been experiencing a bit of FOMO anxiety related less to our friends but more to the state of our world. I live in America which means as you may know we just had an election, and if you’ve been paying attention then you know how that went…annnd how it’s currently going (deepest of sighs).During the time period leading up to the election results everyone…EVERYONE was on their phone, watching the news, looking at news articles, doing whatever they could to stay up to date so that when a result was called they would be the first to know. I would argue that that could also be a …

Perfectionism, Grace and Enjoying the Process

I struggle with perfectionism in my marriage

Well, actually that’s a partial truth. I do struggle with perfectionism in my marriage, but not just there. I struggle with perfectionism everywhere, I always have. I thought, however, that I had overcome it. That I had finally reached contentment with being imperfect and had fully embraced my flaws in all of their glory. I thought that until…well until I got married.

How did I figure that one out? Lately, I’ve found myself frustrated. It took me a little while to figure out the source of my frustration but once I figured it out it made sense.

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Journal Prompts for Self Care/ Personal Development

Hey friends! Today I want to share some journal prompts with you. These prompts should help you begin a journaling habit by answering the question of “where do I begin” or even “what do I write about”. Not only that but they will also help you to start to ask yourself questions that will help you along the journey of personal discovery and personal discovery leads to (in most cases) personal development. Feel free to take these along with your on your journey! Happy Journaling Journal Prompts for Self Care/Personal Development Who are you? What are you good at? What are 3 non physical things you love about yourself? What makes you feel beautiful? What makes you feel loved? How do you show love to others? What are your most valued friend traits? 3 Things that made you happy from last month. 3 Things you are looking forward to this month. What has been your favorite age so far? Why? What is your favorite season? Why? What makes you feel confident? How do you reset? …

Why I Stopped Trying to “Get in Shape”

Growing up I never thought about weight. I was never focused on that. I was a skinny kid who honestly and truly couldn’t care less about what I looked like. This carried into high school, where I was a track athlete, a competitive swimmer and an all around active human with a high metabolism. I could wear whatever I wanted and never worried about if something would make me “look fat”…because it wouldn’t. Fast forward to the college years. And no, it wasn’t the freshman 15 that got to me. It was actually everything that happened after college. The slow down of activity, long hours of sedentary work and the general stress that came along with adulthood. Put those factors together along with the slowing down of my metabolism and there you have it. I gained weight; and a bit of it. Now, it wasn’t a super dramatic increase, but it was enough to realize that I had gone from being at a place where I used to be so unconcerned about clothes fitting and …

Things I want to Start Doing Immediately

I have a list. It’s a large one. It’s a list of things I want to start doing to better my life. Here’s my frustration though….it still a list. That’s frustrating because that means that I haven’t accomplished any of the things yet! Are you like me? Do you have a list, mentally or physically of things you want to do but haven’t? Things like, workout daily, or eat more greens? Maybe wake up earlier? How do we get rid of the list and just…do all of the things? I think I just answered it…we just have to do it. I’m home from work indefinitely. So what better a time than now to start turning that list into actions? Here are somethings I am going to take off of that list starting tomorrow and make into actions: Stretch Daily Core Exercise Daily Write Daily Instagram Story Daily Read Daily Start my Day With a Bottle of Water Daily Watch an Illustrator Tutorial Daily Read my Bible Daily There are soo many things I want to …

My Work From Home Routine

Hey friends! At first I was going to say that I hope you’re hanging in there, but I instead want to say I hope you’re thriving. I hope this period of quiet and slow has given you enough time and space to finally rest and take care of yourself or accomplish some goals you’ve had on standby. This week I started working from home. My place of work is still open, but some of us were given the ability to work from home. As much as I am pleased to be able to be home and get my work done in the safety and comfort of my own home, being at home presents its challenges. Mainly, the challenges I bring upon myself. I need a routine in order to be productive. If I do not have a routine, I will not produce. I will sit in my bed and play The Sims or Legend of Zelda all day if I am not careful. I will also forget to eat appropriately. Therefore, I need to set …