It’s mental health awareness month and I’m starting my side of the conversation with this little but significant post.
I know that when we do it, there’s no harm intended, BUT we’ve got to stop focusing on the physical when talking to girls (boys too) about their positive attributes. This doesn’t mean you can’t tell your friends or daughters that they look nice…that’s not what I’m saying. Let them know they look nice, and also let them know of other ways they’re beautiful to you.

This does a few things:
One – It helps them to develop not only eyes that see those non physical attributes as equally if not more important than their physical ones, but it also helps them to affirm their strengths in other ways.
Two – It helps you as a person to become conscious of the way you see people. It helps you to develop the skill to see those around you beyond their physical presentation.
I think we need more of that in todays world. And that’s all I’m going to say on that (for now).
Below you’ll find my list of 30 Non-Physical compliments. Take a few, write them down and use them on your friends, kids, students…heck, use them on everyone. Fill this place with love, we need it.
30 Compliments for Girls That Don’t Mention Their Bodies
- You are so smart
- I love your compassion for others
- You’re always so thoughtful
- You’re such a leader
- You are so strong!
- You’re so good at taking care of yourself
- I’m so glad I met you
- You’re such a great friend
- I never get tired of being around you
- I love your passion
- I love your style!
- You’re so good at makeup!
- How are you so creative!?
- I love how you put others first!
- You make me feel important!
- You’re so good at making me feel safe.
- You’re so kind
- You’re so empathetic
- I love your emotional confidence
- I love your confidence
- People are so blessed to call you their friend
- Your heart is so beautiful
- You have such a great laugh!
- You have the brightest personality
- You’re so in tuned with your emotions
- Your so down to earth
- You’re so good at ______
- You’re always so patient I love that!
- You have such a beautiful mind
- You’re going to be such a great ______
That’s 30! Thanks for reading and we’ll talk soon!
xx Nicole Eva
P.s. I made a TikTok in conjunction with this post… lol. I cringe but it was fun. Check it out if you dare 😂 (link here)
I love this! Nonbody focused compliments are so important ♥
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They are! They really are ❤️ thank you for reading!
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This post is everything. I love it
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☺️❤️ thank you so much
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Beautiful post. Thank you! 💜
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Thank you so much! ❤️
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Lol the tiktok! Loved it 🙂 Great idea. Also, this is so important. I realize as an adult I have so many complexes because growing up, compliments in my household and school were so focused on looks!
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Hahaha 😂 I don’t know why I subject myself to these things (TikTok)
But RIGHT? Honestly same, and I see it happening with girls today and I think we’ve got a real chance to make an impact if we’re intentional in the way we use our language.
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This is an awesome post, thank you! I have a brand new niece, you can be sure she’ll be hearing some of these!
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Aww thank you! And that makes me so happy ☺️✨ also congrats on your niece!
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i love this post! compliments like this are so important and personally, i appreciate them more 🙂
ellie x // i’ve been looking for some new podcasts and i’ll be checking out the happiness lab podcast since you mentioned it! slice of life and shonen are my favourite genres of anime too, the rawness of slice of life is my favourite aspect too 🙂
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Thank you! Honestly I appreciate compliments like these too! Idk they’re less conditional and things I have more control of so to speak… and I personally find it to lead to significantly less damaging behaviors later on.
Thanks so much for hanging around 💕
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This is amazing and so so important!
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Yes! I agree! ☺️
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Love this! I’ve been guilty of giving compliments that focus on physical attributes so I will be more mindful of this in future. Loved your Tik Tok too 😀
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Aww thanks!! And I definitely do too! And it’s not a bad thing, we just need to balance it that’s all ☺️ thanks so much for reading! Oh and for watching the video 😂
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I LOVE this post so much! It’s so so important!
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I like this post! It’s a shame that we live in a world that’s so focused on people’s outward appearances. I can honestly say that I’ve come across girls who looked very pretty on the outside but had such a nasty attitude. They thought they were better than someone because of how they looked. Those girls used to get on my nerves! I remember one time when I was in high school, I happened to ask a girl if she could catch me up on what I missed in class since I was out for the whole week (I caught a stomach virus that had been going around). And the girl responded very rudely with, “I don’t know! Ask the teacher!” I remember just thinking to myself, “Look, I’m not trying to be your friend or nothing….especially with that type of attitude. I was just asking a school-related question.” Needless to say, I kept my distance from her. I never have time for any drama and if someone doesn’t want anything to do with me, I’m fine with that.
Looks fade away overtime, but a genuine heart and mindset is forever. Good job with this post Nicole. If only more people could focus on what’s on the inside.
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Thank you! And yea we do live in a world that’s soooooo focused on the way people look which is sad to me because there are so many people who grow up thinking that they’re less than because they can’t look a certain way, but even those who look that “certain way” usually don’t actually. They’ve been able to change their appearance with makeup or surgery and such. And in the end they’re still not satisfied with themselves.
I really want to remind people especially younger girls that they are not all about their appearance. And that they are about so much more. Because yes as you said, looks fade. It’s your heart that matters. I’d rather be known for being a kind heart than simply a pretty girl 🤷🏾♀️
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